Chapter 4

I So far so good, we are going to chapter 4 today. Its all about self. Self is discussion and context of the individuals. For example like, 

Who are you?

What represents you?

How does others think of you?

Why are you, you?

When did you become, you?

Where will you become, you?

Self can represent into self-concept, self-awareness, self-esteem and also self-disclosure.

For the first one, self-concept, its how you think and how you feel yourself. The area that affects self-concept is social comparison, other image of you, self-interpretation & evaluation and cultural teaching.

Social comparison means compare and adjust our image and thinking.

Other image of you is compare ourself to others.

Self-interpretation and evaluation is the standard applies ethical and moral reasoning.

Last is cultural teaching is your culture instills in you a variety of beliefs, values, and attitudes about such things as success.

For the second is self-awareness, its mean the ability to discover to know about yourself. There is a table called The Four Self - Johari Window by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham, its explain different types of ourself. It categories into Open Arena ,Blind Spot, Facade, Unknown.

For the example of Open Arena, you likered as wearing everyday and you tell others.

Example of Facade, you scare mice but you doesn't show that you r scare.

Example of Blind spot, non-verbal message, some rub nose or touch their face when they are nervous.

For the example of Unknown, you goodin playing guitar but you never try. You have the ability.

The third is self-esteem, its means you are confidence to yourself or the level of trust to yourself. So there are some ways to increase your self-esteem. Its attack self-destructive belief, work on project that will result in success and also always remind yourself of your success.

The forth is self-disclosur, it means you are hidden yourself, telling other about you that they wouldn't knw about you.

So these are the factors influecing self-disclosur:

1.who you are.

2.Your culture.

3.Your gender.

4.Your listeners – small groups or large group. 

5.Your topic and channel.

So what is the advantages of self-disclosure, first u can gain confidence, second u can be more truthful about yourself and also strengthen your friendships and also relationship between your friend and family. In the contrast, there is always prons and cons, so there are few disadvantages of self-disclosure, its u will loss friends and trust, additional of pressure and burden and also the last is living in  regret.