Chapter 9 love~

Chapter 9 is about families love, lovers and friends love. Its all about Love lol...
Friendship is an interpersonal relationship, must be mutually productive and contains of trust, emotional support, sharing interest.

There are three friendship types
- The friendship of reciorocit
This is an example of close friends, we share equally in giving and receiving the benefits and rewards in our relationship.

-The friendship of receptivity 
This consists of one person giving and one person receiving. For example, our lecture teaches us and we are receiving the knowledge.

- The friendship of association 
This is similar like the first one, but this kind of friendship does not consist of trust, loyalty, or equally shared relationship. For example, our classmates, neighbour or co-worker.

Why do we seek out friendship and close relationship?????

-Utility purposes:

 For example, you will find a friend who good in science teach you improve your science.

-Affirmation:

 For example, a friend who help you to see more clearly your leadership abilities.

-Ego support:

 For example, a friend who will support you all the way and encourage you. 

-Stimulation: 

For example, a friend who help you to expand your worldview. 

-Security:

 For example, a friend who will emphasize or call attention to your weaknesses. 

Besides of that , there are three development stage of friendship

1.Initial contact & acquaintanceship

•The first stage of friendship

•Impressions are formed.

•Important to stay open and welcoming of the presence of your new acquaintance.

2.Casual friendship

•The second stage of friendship.

•Dyadic (of a relation) consciousness takes place

•Doing things together

3.Close and intimate friendship

•The third stage of friendship

•Most intimate forms of togetherness.

The value of friendship would also be affected by Culture , Gender differences, and technology

Love is a romantic relationship

there are:

1.Eros : erotic, sensual, desire, lust

2.Ludus : excitement, fun, entertainment

3.Storge : peaceful and slow

4.Pragma : practical and traditional

5.Mania : extremist of opposites

6.Agape : unconditional love

Families

each family has their own characteristics but they do normally follow a certain set of rules.

-Traditional couples: The conventional form of a family, they shared values, beliefs, tolerance for one another.

- Independent couples: Individuals in this family setting stresses individuality as the main theme in the family. Nowadays this is how the modern family is. 

-Separate couples: Family setting is not really a family but either one in this family stay together for a common benefit like paying the rent, sharing living space.